有一个平凡的人,虽然日子过得并不富贵荣华,不过还算生活无忧,尽管他无法得到名誉地位与荣耀权势,他的生活过得自由自在。而另有一个人,追求高尚品质生活,不时为达到富贵荣华更大化而做出各种努力,当然,生活也一样无忧,也许只是颇有压力,不过换回来的是名誉地位与荣耀权势。
其实一个人要过得平凡与否,完全取决于他自己。如果他平凡并快乐着生活,这是他做出的选择,而如果他争取到富贵荣华且也收获快乐生活,这也是他努力付出的结果。要收获名誉地位与荣耀权势,肯定是需要付出努力换取的。而有时候,就算要过得平凡也是需要付出努力换取的。
在时光的隧道里,谁能够带我们回到过去少年轻狂的世界?在逝去的岁月中,谁又能给我们留下几许美好生活的回忆?原来在累积了些许经历之后方知道,要做一个平凡的人,学习如何生活在这个社会中,这本身就是一种成长,只是,或许没有太多人愿意做一个平凡的人。
曾国藩有一句最为有名的十六字箴言:“物来顺应,未来不迎,当时不杂,既过不恋。”这句话的意思是说,凡事要顺其自然,坦然面对,活在当下,不过度担忧未来还未发生的事,要心无杂念地做好眼前的事,不要去留恋和纠结发生过的事。虽然曾经听过这句话,却不曾细想当中的含义,直到现在,发现原来这句话包含了多少现今社会的无奈,却是生活的真谛。
最近也参阅了稻盛和夫的书,其中也很喜欢他说过的一句话:“身为人,何谓正确,不以利益得失,而以是非、善恶作为标准和行为准则!”字句中所要表达的人生意义已然清晰,不需要再多加解释。这个道理大家自然都懂,可真正以此过生活的人又有多少个?
人生在世,自有所好。也许这是一些年轻人的心声:年少时士气高昂,满脑子想的就是如何创造一番大事业,心中充满无限希望,没有什么人或事可以阻拦到他。或许这是一些老年人的心声:经年之后,开始懂得生活的真谛是平淡一生,富贵荣华得与否已然不重要,有亲友相伴与一生平安才是幸福。
其实世上没有什么事是最重要的,也没有什么事是不重要的。我们不需要纠结于哪件事是否重要,只需要知道,在某一些时间段,这是一件我们需要做的事,然后别考虑太多,尽管去做,即可。
曾经也从某报导中读过这么一段话:“让我们做一个坦然的人,内心从容不迫,淡看兴衰枯败,活得自在洒脱。” 经年之后,越发有所体会,原来当曾经拥有过的繁华逝去,当你的世界都归于平淡的时候,一切都将回归原来的本真。
或者我应该感激此生,因为岁月留给了我对往日的回忆,光阴隐藏了我对生活的情谊,只是,偶尔时光像个不懂事的孩子,流连忘返在年月中,不愿往前行。
偶然在昨晚深夜,听到风吹听到雨落。今日清晨起来,爽然在阳光下淋浴。这,对我而言,就是生活中的一种情谊。也许在一切美好之前,总要经历些许的感叹,或许在辛劳付出过后,方能体会几许的唏嘘。美好的时光是需要漫长等待的,犹如一条小溪在山上涓涓细流,终归会到达它盼望的宽大河流,而清澈的河水始终会流向大海。兴许,你我经历了几度年华,就是为了等待,小溪涌进大海的那一刻;或者,你我经过了几度春秋,只是为了等待,懂得听风吹听雨落的人。
如果说,我用了半个人生,去体会世间的美好,亦用了几许年华,去体验人情的冷暖,那么,请容许我,现在用余下的日子,去换取一个重新思考人生的机会。 而最终,其实我只是想好好爱自己,抛开所有的不快乐,放下心中几许无奈。而在生活中,我们只要本着真诚的心去面对生活,懂得感恩,并学会释怀,足矣。尽管世界多变幻,一切已经无可无不可了。
前行的道路有千万条,哪一条不会崎岖难行?成功的机遇何其繁多,请容我跃过坎坷曲折。接下来的日子,哪怕没有人会再看我一眼,我也不会太在意。
心无所恃,随遇而安。
Once there’s an ordinary person, although his life is neither rich nor glorious, he still leads a care free life. And even though he can't get to live luxury, has good reputation, status, glory & power, he leads a happy life. And there’s another person who pursues a noble quality of life, making various efforts to achieve greater prosperity & glory. Life is also care free for him, perhaps with some pressure, but in exchange for reputation, status, glory & power.
Actually whether a person lives ordinary or not depends entirely on himself. If he’s ordinary & happy in life, this is the choice he made. And if he strives for wealth & glory and still leads a happy life, this is also the result of his hard work. To reap fame, status, glory & power, one definitely will have to make an effort in exchange for it. And sometimes, even if you want to live an ordinary life, you need to work hard in exchange for it too.
In the time channel, who can take us back to our wild young days? In the passing years, who can leave us a few memories of a good life? With years of life experience, now I finally realize that to be an ordinary person & learn how to live in this society, this is a kind of growth. But not many people are willing to be an ordinary person though..
Zeng Guofan has a most famous sixteen-character proverbs: "Things come to conform, the future won’t welcome, its not mixed, and neither is in love." The meaning of this sentence is to let everything happen naturally & face it calmly. Lets live in the present & don't worry too much about things that haven't happened in the future. We should do things without distracting thoughts. Also, don't entangle in the past. Although I’ve heard this sentence before, I’ve never thought about its meaning. Until now, I discovered that this sentence contains the helplessness of today's society, but it is the true meaning of life.
I also read Inamori Kazuo’s book recently. In particular, I like this sentence: “As a person, what’s right? Don't use profit or loss, but instead, use right & wrong as well as good & evil as the standard & code of conduct!” This sentence is somewhat self-explanatory. I’m sure many fully understand the truth hidden beneath. But how many can really lead a life with this truth?
Everyone has something he prefers in life. Perhaps this is the voice of some youngsters: I’m young, and my morale is high. My mind is full of ideas about how I could make it big in my career. And while my heart is full of boundless hope, neither anyone nor anything could stop me. There again, perhaps this is the voice of some elderly: after numerous years of life experience, I come to understand that the true meaning of life is to lead a peaceful life. It doesn’t matter whether I’m wealthy. What matters is a peaceful life gathering with friends & relatives.
In this world, nothing is considered most important. Nevertheless, nothing is unimportant as well. Actually we don’t need to worry if something is important. We just need to know that this is something we need to do, then we can simply set our minds to do it.
I once read a passage from a report: let's be calm, take your time, ignore the ups & downs and live freely. After many years in accumulating much life experience, you’ll find that when the prosperity you once held slipped away & somewhat your world returns to plain & peaceful, everything will return to the original truth.
Perhaps I should be thankful. In this life, I’m left with memories of the past because I treasure friendship over time. But time is like an ignorant child, always unwilling to return home.
Late last night, I happened to listen to the wind blew & the rain dropped. Early this morning when I woke up, I took a shower in the sun. To me, perhaps before everything is perfect, there’s always a little sigh. Maybe after some efforts, one can experience a sign of relief. Good time requires a long waiting period. Its like a small stream trickling on the mountain. Eventually it’ll flow into a large river. And the clear river will always flow to the sea. Maybe both of us are just waiting for the moment when the stream rushes into the sea. Or rather, we spent several years just to wait for the person who knows how to listen to the wind & the rain.
If I spent the first half of my life striving for a better life, please allow me to exchange the rest of my life for an opportunity to rethink my life once again. And eventually, all I want is to love myself, put aside all the unhappiness & let go some helplessness in my heart. Everything can be relieved as long as I have this feeling in the heart. And despite the world that keep changing, everything is no longer necessary.
There’re thousands of roads ahead. Which one will not be too rugged & difficult for me to overcome? There’re so many opportunities to become successful in life. Please let me get to it by confronting the ups & downs. Perhaps no one will look at me again. In any case, I don't care if others are looking at me either.
I know I’ve to learn not to worry too much & be at ease with any situation.